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Stages of Labor

For forty weeks, you wait for a single day: the day you have your baby. You may well look back at it as one of the greatest days of your life, but you are probably not looking forward to it with such enthusiasm. You may be scared. You may be impatient. You may be nervous. You are guaranteed to be in some pain and discomfort on the day in question. But it won't last nearly as long as your memories or your love for your baby. And it's easier to get through when you know what to expect.

There are four stages of labor, and though their character varies just as much as individual women do, there are some things you can anticipate.

You could know you are in labor when:

  • your baby drops
  • your water breaks;
  • a small, clot like plug (bloody show) dislodges itself;
  • steady contractions begin and take on a pattern;
  • you suffer from cramps or diarrhea; and/or,
  • you are flooded with energy, relief, nerves, excitement, or all four at once.

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Bloody show can occur as early as a couple of weeks before labor, or once you're already in it. Your water may break now, but it may break much later. You know that you are officially in early labor because your contractions will become steady and persistent and your cervix will dilate from zero to four centimeters. Like the Braxton Hicks contractions you have probably been experiencing for some time, early labor contractions are mild and begin in the back, moving forward in a wave like motion. You can differentiate them from the Braxton Hicks contractions by moving. Changing your position or getting up and walking strengthens a labor contraction, while it has no effect on a Braxton Hicks contraction. These contractions will be thirty to sixty seconds long and between five and twenty minutes apart.

You may be in early labor anywhere between two and 20 hours so sit back and stay as comfortable as possible at home with a stop watch in hand. Time your contractions from the beginning of one contraction to the beginning of the next. Once your contractions have been five minutes apart for about an hour if you are a first time mom, or ten minutes apart for about an hour if you have had a baby before, call your doctor or caregiver. They will probably tell you that unless your water has broken, it is too early to go to the hospital or birthing center, and they will let you know when you should plan to leave for the hospital. When making that decision, don't forget about traffic. Sleep if you can. Eat a small, light snack. Call your coach and add any last minute items to your hospital bag. If you find yourself getting worked up and stressed out, practice your relaxation techniques.

Active labor begins when your cervix is dilated to between four to seven centimeters. You should be at your delivery destination already and if your water did not break earlier, it will be broken now. Your contractions are getting longer, stronger, and closer together. They will be between one and three minutes apart and may last 60 to 75 seconds. You will be very seriously and intensely focused on them. Seek reassurance, good music, a massage, and anything that will keep you comfortable. Concentrate on relaxing. The more relaxed you are, the easier it will be to dilate and thin out your cervix. Standing up and walking around will help, too. Walk to the bathroom every hour to empty your bladder. You'll be in this stage of delivery for 12 to 16 hours if you are a first-time mom, and maybe six to eight hours if you've already been through this once before.

Transition is the most difficult part of labor, but it is also the shortest. Your uterus is no longer opening the cervix; it's pushing the baby out. This could last as few as 10 minutes, and it probably won't last longer than an hour. Your contractions will be hard and strong, about one minute apart and somewhere between 90 and 120 seconds long. There may be multiple peaks to them rather than a wave-like action, and you may not have a break between contractions. You will be dilated between seven and 10 centimeters, and you will probably be irritable and teary. Panic, disorientation or nausea may set in. You may get hot or cold flashes, and your legs might tremble. You will be feeling rectal pressure, and may have a premature urge to push. Your coach will be there to offer support and to remind you that it is not long now. The moment in which you think you cannot wait or survive another second, you don't have to.

Upon arrival at the final stage of labor, birth and afterbirth, you will be fully dilated and ready to push. Your contractions will be wavelike again, giving you three to seven minutes of resting time in between them. They will be about a minute or so long, and your doctor, midwife, or nurse will tell you when and when not to push.

Whether upright, squatting, or lying on your side, you will push evenly and intensely from the diaphragm downward, and keep the vaginal canal as relaxed as you can. Depending on what kind of medication you have or have not taken, you may feel your baby in your birth canal during contractions, and you may experience a stretching almost burning sensation as your perineum is widened, allowing your baby to pass through into the world.

Once your baby is born, your uterus will continue to contract gently for another half hour to push out your placenta. You may not even notice these last minutes of labor. You are a mom now and the most beautiful baby in the world may be all you have the time or energy to think about.

 

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Chrys on 11/10/2009 9:07:24 AM
Lee Lee. I have a 4year old little girl who was delivered by c-section. I'm currently pregnant with my second girl (36 weeks) and due to have another c-section. I can assure you that a c-section is not as big a deal as it is made out to be. It is unknown and scary the first time. There will be pain associated with it because it is a surgical procedure and recovery time is longer than a regular delivery. The best thing you can do is mentally prepare yourself for it. Know that it is not as easy as natural delivery but if you mentally prepare for it, you will be able to cope and recover quickly. Some things that helped me were getting up and walking as soon as I could. Push through the hurt and get walking so you can recover quicker. If you don't get up and walk it will hurt more. Another thing that really helped was getting a waist shaper (the form fitting velcro or full elastic waist shaper and wearing it everyday. It helped to ease the pain from the c-section cut and kept my stomach in which made it a lil better to move around. You'll find that you will have a hard time sitting up, standing up etc. (anything involving using abdominal muscles since yours have been cut) so make others help you get out of bed or chairs. It's a harder recovery but if you exercise, get support you need to get in & out of bed and chairs and support your incision and tummy then it's not so hard to deal with. I hope this helped a little. It's nothing to be scared of it's just something to prepare yourself for and before you know it you will be healed and you will have a beautiful lil one to take your mind off it. Don't push yourself either make people help you when you need it. Good Luck
lee lee on 11/8/2009 3:01:38 AM
Huh... I'm 34 weeks prego with twins I have one baby girl she is four I had abeautiful paainful 4 quick labor and delivery with her I loved every bit OF IT I am scheduled for a csection on12.7.09 because baby a is breech I'm so nervous about being cut then the healing procces I hear is serious and ill have 2 nbs and a 4 year old plus a wound anyone know what I'm in for just want a slight heads up...
Aimee on 11/7/2009 7:21:34 AM
I enjoyed the article but every time I read something like this, I always feel my stomach get tight and queasy and my heart start pounding when they talk about the transition stage, lol. I'm 18, will be 19 on November 26, which is my due date. I'm pretty excited about being due on my birthday/ Thanksgiving but I'm hoping she comes a little early so I can relax and actually be able to hold her on Thanksgiving I have convinced myself that I will have a natural birth. I'm an extremely sentimental person and since this is my first pregnancy, I want to feel every thing, even if it feels like my life is coming to an end. Women have been doing this since God created Eve and I feel like if He thought we couldn't handle it, He wouldn't have placed the burden on us. We are women, after all, and are meant to handle things that men couldn't possibly handle. :) My doctor's a little pushy and thinks that his way is the only way so I'm afraid he'll force me into an epidural or morphine. The only way I see myself taking drugs is if I have to have a c-section or if my daughter's life will be in danger. So far, I don't see any problems, apart from diabetes, so I'm praying I can do this the way I want it and that the nurses don't repeatedly ask me if I want the drugs. Even though I'm bent on drug free, I know how I am in my weak state and I'd probably administer the drugs myself if they offered them to me, lol. Anyhow, I'm 37w, 2d so Isabella will be here any day now. I'm praying for a healthy, happy baby, and by the way she acts inside of me, I'm sure she'll be a very active one too! Good luck ladies :)
Rocci on 11/6/2009 7:25:55 PM
This is really good info for first time moms...hint though really try to focus on the "special place" because that will help you a great deal. But always keep that ear open for what the doctor/nurse says to you- if they tell you to stop pushing~ listen to them because they are serious - there may something wrong and they need to deal with it before the baby comes out. Trust me it will take every ounce out of you to stop but please by god do because it literaly could be the life of the baby. Just relax - appologize to whom ever is in the room with you ahead of time because you will say things that you really don't mean when it is time for the baby to come! Every mom does slip and say that wrong word or what ever. Oh yea, very important... you may feel like screaming but truly don't because you just can't believe on how much energy you loose when you to scream. Use that energy and push as hard as you can! It will help trust me. Good luck to everyone one! It is very scary but well worth it in the end... when they say you forget the pain when you finally see that baby... they are completely right!!!! Luck to ALL! Rocci
chasity on 11/6/2009 12:47:55 PM
I realy enjoy reading all ya'lls articles.I am on my third & 28 weeks,but I'd rather go in Dec.I had an epi. with my last 2 (1 boy 1 girl) I have had back problems & plan to go natural this time.Ya'll keep me in your prayers.I try to remind myself that women have been doing this for centuries & God knew what He was doin' when He made us,that's reassuring,T God.Bless ya'll.
Teiara on 11/6/2009 6:36:58 AM
hello this is my first child i kind of scared because i dont like pain im only 16 and im 36 weeks pregnant but thanks for the info about labor i need to learn as much as possible
Laura on 11/6/2009 6:16:45 AM
Reading through all these posts makes me all excited...I am 39 weeks and ready as ever to give birth to my baby girl. This is my Second child and like most did not want any part of any drugs....I stat=rted with the gas mask and when it became just to intence I took the Epi when offered. It was the best thing ever! I got to enjoy labour and watch my little boy come out! I was in Labour for 4 hrs 26 mins on the first so I am praying to make it to the hospital in time for the epi with my second....Sh could come anyday now!!!!
Anna on 11/6/2009 5:28:35 AM
Hello, any advice on giving birth without the epidural. I'm now 39 weeks pregnant, had an epidural with my first pregnancy. He was early, 33 1/2 weeks so, he was only 5 lbs 4 oz. Since I'm nearly full-term, I know that there will be discomfort, but, really would like to do it w/out the drugs! Any tips/suggest to get the labor started?
TLM on 11/5/2009 11:22:20 AM
I am pregnant with my second son and definitely want an epidural. I had my first son naturally (not by choice, I was given Pitocin and I dialated from 3 cm to 10cms so fast the epidural didn't have a chance to take) so I felt everything including the "ring of fire" as my son's 35cm (yes, 35cm!) head was crowning. I am hoping to avoid some of the pain I went through the first time, and also hoping that my labor will be much shorter. I labored 37 hours with my first son because they also gave me morphine for the pain which slowed and prolonged my labor.
Aliya on 11/5/2009 9:43:20 AM
I'm 36 weeks pregnant and this is my third child and I was never able to get an epidural. I dilated so quickly that by the time the anesthesiolo was available I was pushing out the baby. It was quite an experience and relaxing and breathing help the process move along more quickly. Some experiences are different so don't worry new moms, they will try to make you as comfortable as possible and for those that are going natural like i am, when the pain is unbearable, it's usually time to push out baby...Good luck ladies..
Shaderia on 11/4/2009 12:58:59 PM
I didnt go in labor yet but I know what the real contractions will feel like when I have cuz I been havin Braxton Hicks contractions for like a week already. I went to the clinic on monday and my doctor told me I have not dilated yet but my cervix is soft so that means im gettin ready to go in. The Braxton Hicks contractions hurt but I know the real labor contractions will hurt way more then the Braxton Hicks contractions I dont want no medicine when I go into labor I want ot go all natrual. Some ppl say when I go into labor I will change my mind but I dont think so I know I can do it without medicine. This information is very good cuz it just helped me out a whole lot. So now I know what to look forward to. This is my first child and I cant wait!
Ashley on 11/4/2009 12:04:07 PM
I had a c-section with my first child because she was breech. I am 38 weeks pregnant with the second child and I am going to try a vbac. I am nervous because even though this is my second child I do not know what labor is like. I hope that everything goes smoothly. I am most worried that I will labor for hours and hours and end up having another c-section. Either way I can wait to hold my baby boy!!!!!!
Leigh Ann on 11/4/2009 11:56:37 AM
Good article. This is my third and I am considering natural..or at least not epidural this time. I need to find all my options. Thanks for sharing your experiences.
sharon on 11/4/2009 1:18:18 AM
I am 37 weeks pregnant with baby number 5. all my births have been different ranging from 17 hours with my eldest to 4 with my youngest. yes they all hurt (except my son who i had by c-section) but that pain is all relative when you see your baby for the first time. i am still nervous wbout this birth and hope that all goes well and quick!! good luck to all expectant mums out there expecially first time mums - remember it is worth every minute so hang in there - it wont last forever
kv on 11/3/2009 12:37:40 PM
I agree with Anonymous, labor is different for everyone. Your body is different from the next female which plays a huge part in things like labor. This is my third and I was given a local for both my deliveries as I was able to bare the pain and my longest labor was 6 hours with my first 4 with my second. I can only hope my third will be the same or better, but there are always variables, so just relax and don't get worked up about it, the end result is worth it without a doubt.
charity on 11/3/2009 3:19:26 AM
i'm a first time mom but i think i an handle the pain since i can't wait for mylittle bird.due 14 Nov 09
Tierra on 11/3/2009 2:15:54 AM
i am 31weeks pregnant and i am due january 5th this is my second pregnancy but i miscarried wit my first one. i am terrified of the labor because i watched my sister have her son and she acted a fool. But i'm having a girl and i can't wait til she gets here but i'm also scared of the pain and i sometime wonder will i no i'm in labor will i no my water broke and things like that but i have my boyfriend and my family to support me through this wish me luck:)
Anonymous on 11/2/2009 7:09:14 PM
Every experience is different. Keep your mind open to everything. All that matters is you have a healthy baby at the end. I had very bad back labour and was unable to shift positions at all. My spine was so compressed I couldn't stand or walk. I had a mild walking epidural and it took away my back pain. I still felt all of my labour and was able to get up and walk immediately afterwards. Keep your mind open, it doesn't have to be all or nothing.
Damaris on 11/2/2009 7:09:02 PM
I'm 31 weeks pregnant, it will be my first baby. I began to feel scary. My due date will be on january 3rd. Even though my husband will be with me, I don't know how will be the contractions whether I will have to much pain or not. Definily, I rather to have a natural birth than surgery, but who knows how will be that moment. Thanks guys for all the information.
Stevie on 11/2/2009 2:11:40 PM
I am 36 weeks prego with my 2nd and I had an epidural (which by the way was not bad It didnt make me tired it just numbs you from the hips down...I could still move my legs you just cant feel the pain) and I will have another one with this baby. I was lucky and only pushed 2 times with my first labor. I am hoping that this one goes just as well but like everyone says every pregnancy/la is different but the contractions I did feel were very painful and that precious baby that comes from that pain is well worth it and after a while you even forget how bad it hurt!
B Lawford on 11/2/2009 12:18:32 PM
I will promise you one thing, as soon as you hold that beautiful baby in your arms, that pain will soon be forgotten and considered worth it all!!
Anonymous on 11/2/2009 9:51:29 AM
Im 28 weeks and I'm starting to feel very mild pain in my lower stomach. When I went in to see the Dr. for observation she said I was having small contractions They don't really hurt and I'm planning on having a natural childbirth. Sadly my husband will be in Afghanistan when I deliver so I won't have him there to support me. :(
leesha on 11/2/2009 8:15:33 AM
Reading all these stories is makin me feel much better. I am scared of pain and I hope da day of my delivery, I will do fine. I'm 30 wks now, 10 more wks 2 go and I'm very excited. My babys father n my family will be there so I know I'll be alright. I'm having a girl, my 1st baby and I can't wait. Being pregnant is and was very hard for me. Some days were ok but da majority was horrible, I was always vomiting, 24/7,ughh, I feel much better now, thank God. I jus hope I'm not home alone when its time.. Thanks a lot for your stories, Ladies..
gen on 11/2/2009 5:49:22 AM
hi im due on nov. 8.,frankly telling i was so nervous of gvng birth cuz its mie frst tym..but im tryng 2 be relaxed as everyone is telling me.. congra 2 all moms outder..!!
Cathy on 10/29/2009 5:01:33 AM
Hi i'm on my 38th week now.. i'm due november 12... i can't wait to give birth.. this is my first baby... soooo excited
anona on 10/23/2009 12:54:43 PM
hey everyone i am approaching my 37th week and having a scheduled csection im just ready to drop the load and tired of being pregnant this is my 3rd child. wish me luck and i will holla back with the victory report
stacy on 10/14/2009 5:47:34 PM
thanks every1 for your imput im a first time mom due nov 10th and scared but trying to think positive and hoping i can be relaxed enough
Stacie on 10/9/2009 10:29:17 PM
I am due to deliver any day now. I had natural birth with my first and plan the same for this baby. Soon to be moms are of course apprehensive about what labor pains will be like. Of course there will be discomfort. For me in the begining, it was like hard menstral cramps. Closer to actual delivery it felt more like I needed to have a bowel movement. I've heard this is the most common sensations for women in labor. So soon to be moms, don't stress ur selves. Hospital staff, family, ect., will be there to help and you will follow ur body's cues tellin you what to do. Remember in the end you get to hold your beautiful baby and begin that lifelong bond. God will give you all the strength you need! So good luck to all of you. Motherhood is more rewarding than you'd ever expect. :)
Jennifer on 10/7/2009 3:38:26 PM
This is my 3rd child and with everyone it's has been less hours of labor. I think i handle mu 2nd one much better seeing that i had experience before i was more relaxand i think i am mentally & emotionally prepared for this one and i hope that all goes well. I wish all mothers and mothers to be best of luck.
Heather on 10/5/2009 11:47:05 AM
I'm 33 weeks with my third child. I delivered both my other two naturally with no pain meds or epideral. I plan on doing the same with this one. Most people do experience pain with child birth, that is part of the natural process also. There are also risks associated with every type of pain med out there, including epideral. I did not want to take those chances or to not be myself when seeing my baby for the first time. But let me tell you it isn't an easy decision when you're in the middle of it. You need to let whom ever is helping you know and you make the decision ahead of time that you DO not want meds etc when you are in the middle of it. Then they can help you through it when you want to change your mind. I'm just saying if you don't want to take anything go in there with that set in your head.
meg on 10/5/2009 10:23:01 AM
I am due for a c-section on the 21st. This will be my 2nd one. I had to have an unplanned one the 1st time. I am just as scared with this one as I was with the 1st one. But atleast I know what to do with this one!
Keiuandra on 9/25/2009 1:52:20 PM
Giving bith the first time can be scary. But the bottom line is you should be prepared for the worst. When I had my first child I went in thinking that If would not be so bad that and hollywood just exaggerated child birth. To back up this theory My sister had three of the easist births in the world. Her daughter literally fell out when she was told to walk around to help her labor progress. Needless to say I that my labor experience would be like that of the women in my family. Did not happen. I acted a fool. I riped out my iv, tried to rip off my husband head and sreamed to god for relief. When my beatiful daugter was born and the pain was gone, it like a splash of cold water i was so embarrassed I could have died. For some women birth can be I beatiful experince. The one thing that you can count on is that your experienc will be unique and when that baby is in your arms you will feel that it was worth it all. p.s. I had to learn that hard way that no one gives out metals for sucessfully completion of nateral childbirth. If you need pain relief get it.
Jill on 9/19/2009 8:24:18 AM
I agree that the fear factor and any mention of pain should be eliminated. Birthing is natural, normal & healthy. Women should feel empowered and excited about birth - not fearful with expectations of intense pain.
Anonymous on 9/5/2009 9:53:21 AM
this is informative but do keep in mind everyone and pregnancy is different. some feel the pains and some don't. some of these steps happen naturally and some the doctors do help with. good luck to all and congrats on the babies.
Rene' on 9/2/2009 12:52:16 PM
Thanks to the women who are mom's already, sharing your previous experiences makes me a 1st time mom feel more at ease. Even though everyones experience is unique. Thanks a mil Nikky!
Erin on 8/25/2009 6:48:22 AM
I disagree with some of the info in this article. I don't think you should say in the intro that all births are guaranteed to involve pain. I'm prego with number three and I found that when I chose to change the word from "pain" to "sensations" it didn't hurt anymore. I also disagree that the water has to broken at 7 centimeters. I have had many friends who labored the baby all the way down with the water sack intact. It's often a longer but gentler labor. I think a woman intuitivly knows when to have her water broken if it doesn'y happen naturally. She shouldn't be forced by a doctor to do so just because it's convenient for their(the MD's) schedule. Birth is beautiful and natural. It's important that women know their facts but the fear factor needs to be eliminated.
ray on 8/20/2009 5:24:16 PM
I was in labour fot 36hrs...that was from the first notable contraction to birth. I am pregnant with baby #2 and hoping for a much faster labour this time.
Shane on 8/20/2009 12:05:55 PM
I'm a soon to be dad and i am freakin' out man. All the power to you mom's.
Sara on 8/14/2009 12:18:56 PM
The time frame isn't always like that. I got my first contractions after my water broke and went from 1 cm dilated to 10 cms in just under one hour after that. And that was my first pregnancy. Doctors think this one will be just like that again or quicker.
Nikky on 8/13/2009 6:31:22 AM
This is scary for a first time mom considering a natural birth.
Sherry on 8/13/2009 2:02:52 AM
This information is very goood!
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